Relationships and Heartaches; and I try to help my friends ^_^

EMO ako ngayon walang pakelamanan AMPFUFU!
(I'm EMO today don't mess with me!)

I am not a psychiatrist.. nor am I claiming that I am an expert in this field. I'm really not. But in my own sweet time, I try to help others cope with their dilemma. I have a colorful lovelife... some of them even are published in this blog but then again who cares! (NO!!!! don't even try to look for my love problems in the archives silly you!)

I try and help my friends whenever I can about their problems, (no not FINANCIAL ones!, I am not that rich...where did you get that idea?! sheesh!) and I've been like that for ages... I mean even in high school I was one of the few people you can run to and analyze things detrimental with matters of the heart. As corny as it sounds, I've loved and only share what I know works for me.Friends give me problems really... ^_^

These past few weeks, it seems to me that my friends are all in a ditch... rushing to me and ask about what they want to do with their own corny Love matters:

CASE # 1 FALLING OUT

Things were so nice when it started, Johndoe and his girlfriend Janedoe had a pretty nice relationship. They were inlove I guess. Johndoe just came from an OFF and ON relationship, he ended that and started this one with Janedoe. They had done it as well... a couple of times... I knew about it then coz Johndoe kept on bragging about it when we had a chance to talk...then a few weeks after... he messaged me and told me it was FAILING... why? he had a couple of reasons... but out of everything that he said... one thing was evidently happening... he was falling out of love for her... I did ask him why but all he said was... it was not like what it was.. (that was a lot of was O_O)... it just ain't working out anymore... he wanted to let go.... I told him not to do so... why? Janedoe#1 was not in the position to just let go of everything... she was madly inlove with him still... she ended up cursing him a couple of times... because of course as much as we "men" want to clean about breakups... we need a valid reason to tell women and not just "because we want to"... I only told him that the relationship that they had was not to be taken lightly... more so that the girl was already madly inlove... she will be hurt... I asked the guy to at least try to work it out and talk to her once more... he was pessimistic... and still opted for a breakup... but then again I instilled to him to be at least aware of the girl's feelings... try... at least try.... if it still ends up bad, then decide if it really is worth it to let go.... at least they both won't have the feeling of regret if ever things really do not work out with them both... at least they tried their best... a couple of months worth of a relationship is a BIG DEAL nowadays... I mean its not that common anymore that people stay a week or less than that LOLZ.... and I tried to tell him make amends and if things still went KAPUT! they would end up friends instead of hating each other because the other did not do their job keeping it... I btw kept it a point to at least end up friends with my ex's... we live in a small world! we'll bump into each other one day and at least they won't tell me I did not do my best saving the relationship... now isn't that neat?! ^_^ I'll be hearing from them soon I guess... if things did not work out... I'll let you know.


CASE #2 KUNG FU FIGHTING

This was my Ex's bestfriend... which I ended up being friends with... yeah I'm that friendly I guess but really that's part of the job to at least get to know your wifey's set of friends. Now back to him... this guy was in a couple of relationships in the past that did not really last... some only lasted weeks... months.... and now this one became serious... they were already together in an apartment... just living in.... and the trend was.. this was the most serious of all of them... I mean who on eart would not wish of someone you could end up forever with... well.. he thought it was forever...

So when they lived together... as expected... their own set of skeletons and demons went out of their closets and said hi and hello to both of them... and what used to be perfect and blissful in the beggining became a HELLHOLE after almost a year... their fights? it just became almost everyday... the former I LOVE YOU'S.... became I'LL SLAP YOU's... and what's worst is that... they both do it...funny as it sounds but it looks like a Kung Fu movie in their house.. threats here and there... slaps, words thrown at each other... blocks... pots pans and dinner plates flying across the room... (remeber house of flying daggers? ^_^ ) something they thought was forever... is now a big NIGHTMARE... yeah it is bound to end.

He asked me that he changed so they would both be happy... that it was not like him to just stand around and fight with someone every single day... telling me he wants to leave her already... its a good thing they didnt have a kid otherwise it would be more complicated I said.. I told him since it seems that its not working out, and they are already hurting each other he has to decide to end it all. He has the option to try and save it, but he was really not optimistic either. I said "You already know what to do...why ask me?!"... he said thanks that "it just became clear to him". So they'll probably talk this evening about it and make steps to out of each others nerves from hereon.

CASE #3 PROFESSIONAL LOVERS

Two people fell inlove... from the same group of friends where I was also included ended a few weeks ago. A Nurse and a Pharmacist which is an unlikely combination (coz in my mind if they live together the house would probably look like a hospital O_O) the guy (the Nurse) fell inlove with the latter (the pharmacist)... and so they did end up together... had done it as well... but things were not that great after a few weeks... The pharmacist who recently passed the board exams got a job as a med rep for a very reputable company... the nurse on the other hand wished to live and work abroad so he was fixing his papers already... both were busy... and on times that they only could meet, it rarely happened... because of schedule constraints. They ran out of time for each other... and small things, like going out with other friends and appointments became a BIG DEAL. They barely had time for each other yet the nurse was still going out with other people at times expected to be spent with the pharmacist. The pharmacist went ahead of the game and asked to temporarily give time off... a COOL OFF period as locally known here... but then the Nurse did not like that idea.... small fights here and there.... then they formally separated... I only still asked them to be friends... yes its ironic... but I wanted them to... since we are in the same group, I'd rather have them acknowledge each other.... have that be left behind... adn continue on this time as friends... now they are and even joking about it... I am happy this one ended this way. ^_^

So you see, I am not an expert.... but then again I try my best to fix things that are still feasible to fix... they ask my opinion, I just give them what I need them to hear... and not sugarcoat every word uttered off of my mouth... I'm happy some ended nicely.... and hopeful that the others will still be the same... after all... I'm just here for all of them... I'm a friend and I'd like to continue to be one. ^_^